Friday, March 3, 2017

Coaching 3 - Meditation and Awareness

Tuesday: Body
            Looking back, after doing mindfulness meditation, I realize that my body experience was informative, but no necessarily in the way intended. As a warm-up I think it was still effective though. I was very aware of the way everything touched, and I tried to make texture my primary information source outside of the ever-dominating sight. For some reason I interpreted “body” as “skin, muscle and bone.” I did not take notice of my other senses the way I focused on touch. The lined fake leather of my steering wheel, the difference in temperature between fingers when holding an iced drink – I noticed I grind my teeth sometimes for comfort. The pressure feels good. I was much more touchy with my environment as well, allowing my forearms to rest on pieces of gym equipment at work, touching my clients a bit more often than usual, pushing my leg up against a tree to feel bark against my skin. Overall I became more aware of my environment and more free in pursuing a tactile experience, but I did not notice myself noticing these things, I just noticed them. I’m excited to isolate other senses besides sight in the days to come. I suspect that paying attention to the senses in isolation will add up to paying attention to the whole body. I meditated for the first time in over a decade on Tuesday night and it created about 3hrs of profound experience, directly applicable to the class I think.

Wednesday: Breath
            Wednesday was a study day and I only left my apartment to go to class. Sitting at my desk for most of the day, I periodically would notice my breathing, forget about it, and notice it again. It reminded me of trying to maintain good posture while typing. The mindfulness youtube video that I have become enamored with also mentioned breath, but was unique in that it put breath on an even plane with the other senses regarding isolation and awareness. Even sight was addressed in this particular video. I think I had my first “notice what I’m noticing” moment when I switched from my breath to my hearing. I am naturally attuned to hear music and investigate what I like when I’m watching tv or a movie, in a grocery store or mall, anywhere really. It’s how I find new music. Shazaam. Because I do this already, when I tuned into my hearing, I noticed that I was doing it, and a light came on. I felt like my meditative experience from the night before and my daily experience found something in common with each other. I also noticed that I primarily breath through my nose. I intend to make note that this is not something other people can hear, because I've always found that gross when others do it. 

Thursday: Emotions
            Noticing my emotions on Thursday was very difficult. Rather than the mindful experience I have had lately that seems to prod me to continually step back from my thoughts and emotions, the best I was able to accomplish were various realizations that my emotions were dominating my experience. In some cases, they even briefly controlled my behavior. Someone that works for me let me down in a professional experiment at work. I found out about this just after being informed that my work day was going to end at 6pm, rather than the 2pm I had been anticipating.  I was managing the negativity of the unexpected long day fairly well, but when I got the text informing me that my employee had screwed up, and was unwilling to own up to it on top of that, things did not go well. When I called her, I managed to pull of a quick disclaimer before asking some very pointed questions about her preparation and performance.  After we got off the phone I called her back and apologized for being so upset and laid out a few very specific steps we are going to take together in order to help her performance. I did realize in the moment that predictions I was making about her intent and motivation were based completely on conjecture. I learned a lot monitoring my emotions but it was through a crisis experience.

Friday: Thoughts
            When I read this exercise, I assumed that stepping back from thoughts would be easier than stepping back from emotions. Emotions seem so much more powerful, and I think that is why they are actually easier to observe. Thoughts are so frequent and so often happen without any real consequence that it’s pretty hard to notice them unless you are meditating. I did have a helpful combination of emotional and thought awareness that led to a good decision. I was booked on a  comedy show that no one showed up to. By no one I mean two audience members showed up. Six comedians were present, a host and five performers. Without getting into the hows and whys, I realized that the booker was not going to make sure the comedians weren’t gong to hold the two audience members hostage for a show that was going to go on way too long. The show started at 8pm, and by 9pm only 2 comedians had performed. Any hope I had of getting anything productive out of the experience was gone. There was no energy left in the room and the host came back on stage to masturbate in front of the two audience members, completely disrespecting their politeness in hanging out while comics interviewed them and made inside jokes. I noticed my thoughts first, as I was imagining telling the booker to get control of the show and shorten it significantly. This was a non-functional idea, and then I noticed it was coming from an emotion of anger and disappointment. I sat back from the emotions and thoughts and calmly informed the booker and a few of the comics that I had to leave.


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