My coachee's post nature walk stream of conscious writing had many of the same elements as mine. Ideas and intentions ranged from theoretical and metaphysical quandaries to very concrete visions of potential futures. We both found it fun when ephemeral talk of the creative self would circle around and into a very specific future action or vision of our reality. We both experienced genuine clarity throughout the exercise.
My coachee and I have come to a conclusion about using Dialogue in our real lives. Many of our conversations revolve around personal relationships, though professional interactions also come up. I think personal relationships stay in our focus because those relationships are made up of the individuals more permanently in our lives. Because of that, we seek to connect, through Dialogue, with them more passionately than we desire to see change in those we interact with professionally. My coachee and I share this perception, and probably have similar ratios of personal / professional life investment.
When trying to move into Generative Dialogue with people in our lives, we have realized that we have to listen to them to see where they are and meet them their. This seems like obvious "week 2" stuff in Dialogue, but when interaction happens with someone who is very, very, very, very far way from us in terms of Dialogue, it can seem almost too ridiculous for reality to consider how far from us (people with Dialogue) the space for Generative Dialogue is. The size of the gap feels like "week 12" stuff. It is many "miles" across a chasm, and the best thing that can be hoped for - in a single series of interactions - is moving that Generative space a few inches towards the middle. This realization is a beautiful tragedy...making engagement in Dialogue as much of a responsibility as it is a pleasant virtue.
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